Help! Frustration And Mental Blocks Are Destroying My Confidence!

<p>Listeners, this is a big question and let me tell you I wrote several pages of notes to answer it. Listener Simon from Dublin was feeling a MAJOR case of frustration and wrote in to the show. Here&#39;s some of what he said:</p>

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<p>Sometimes I just cannot seem to lock down a concept in the language I&#39;m learning, no matter how much I try. </p>

<p>These mental blocks can be demotivating. They force me to use simpler sentences than I know I can produce. They make me feel uncertain when trying to express certain concepts, and they can cause frustration when they seem like they&#39;re always going to be stopping my progress. Sometimes these blocks are the reason a person thinks they&#39;re not good at learning languages. </p>
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<h3>Frustration In Language Learning</h3>

<p>There&#39;s a truth about learning any language: Frustration is real and it&#39;s normal and it&#39;s extemely ennoying! Once you start to feel it, you have reached a new stage of growth...expect to be frustrated for a few years.</p>

<p>Frustration&#39;s good sides are:</p>

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<li>It&#39;s a sign that you care.</li>
<li>It pushes you to re-commit to the process of learning a language.</li>
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<p>You cannot really eliminate all of this and fix every mental block, but you can <strong>REDUCE and EMBRACE</strong> the frustration.</p>

<p>Here&#39;s how to do it:<br>
1) Change your outlook. The mental blocks are not hindering your progress. They ARE your progress.<br>
2) Deal with the practical challenges one by one, not all at once.<br>
3) Cut out comparison. Where you are right now is fantastic, and it&#39;s important to examine the source of your high expectations.<br>
4) Set the best possible goals for yourself by leveraging the Zone of Proximal Development - not the Panic Zone!</p>

<p><img src="https://uploads.fireside.fm/images/9/9103f3da-a263-4bfe-b5a3-58649ff9b5f... alt="frustration language learning"></p>

<p>More about all this in the episode - click play and I hope you&#39;ll find it helpful.</p>

<p><em>Thank you to Stephen for this episode introduction and to kick-ass language learning app <a href="http://www.clozemaster.com/fluentshow" rel="nofollow">Clozemaster</a> for supporting this show.</em></p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a href="http://www.clozemaster.com/fluentshow" rel="nofollow">Clozemaster</a>: <a href="http://www.clozemaster.com/fluentshow" rel="nofollow">Visit our sponsor Clozemaster, the free addictive language app in over 50 languages</a></li></ul><p>Links:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.quora.com/Why-do-we-get-frustrated-when-learning-something" title="Why do we get frustrated when learning something? - Quora" rel="nofollow">Why do we get frustrated when learning something? - Quora</a></li><li><a href="https://www.tes.com/news/30-second-briefing-what-zone-proximal-development" title="The 30-second briefing: What is the zone of proximal development? | Tes News" rel="nofollow">The 30-second briefing: What is the zone of proximal development? | Tes News</a></li><li><a href="https://school.fluentlanguage.co.uk/p/the-language-habit-toolkit" title="The Language Habit Toolkit | Fluent Language" rel="nofollow">The Language Habit Toolkit | Fluent Language</a> &mdash; Goal Setting and more with the Language Habit Toolkit</li><li><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zone_of_proximal_development" title="Zone of proximal development - Wikipedia" rel="nofollow">Zone of proximal development - Wikipedia</a></li><li><a href="https://school.fluentlanguage.co.uk/p/speakgerman" title="The German Pronunciation Masterclass | Fluent Language" rel="nofollow">The German Pronunciation Masterclass | Fluent Language</a> &mdash; Example of a pronunciation course and its structure</li></ul>

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